apparently I've been causing a commotion with my last blog entry, the *planning a wedding* part ...

so yes, please save the date, my dearest lovely friends & families, the Indonesian ceremony date is now set for 8/8/08.

no .. it's not because it's a "cool" date, rather it was the date that was recommended by my mom after consulting Primbon Jawa, huahahaha - taking into consideration my birthdate & Jim's. ada tambahannya lagi: akad nikahnya harus diatas jam 4 sore .

there will be a Chinese banquet in Boston, too, tapi blom ditentuin tanggalnya. masih nyari2 resto yg ga mahal. plus ditambah komplikasi bokap-nyokap-Lika&Kevin-Dimas kira2 dapet visanya brapa lama. oh, and I want to make sure that Betsy is back in Boston b/c I need her to be one of my bridesmaids.

what's the story?

well .. I guess we're finally making it "legal". After being together (on-and-off) for ~11 years, living "in sin" for ~10 yrs & engaged for ~3 years, I finally succumbed to the idea of committing myself to another person in a legal sense.

so no .. there was really no special occasion when I recently got engaged, no getting-down-on-1-knee-type of excitement. timeline-wise, Jim's been on my case to get engaged & married sejak thn 1999 . tapi karna sayanya yg masih commitment-phobic due to the lack-of-trust issue, I finally agreed to buy the ring in July 2004 (milih sendiri loh!). oh, and plus the fact that until April 2006, saya masih terbayang-bayang oleh "what if" situationnya dg seseorang lelaki yg kebetulan temennya neng Wenni + neng Wita .

need to blog more about the "commitment-phobic" concept, but really, I'm not that into marriage and all that crap. maybe because I've been watching too many of my friends of the same age who have gotten married & divorced in a short period of time. ngga worth it spending the money to have wedding parties only to have the union crumble later on.

** update on the green card: it was false alarm on the TBC front, I'm cleared of any diseases. medical exam report is finally complete - application package has now been sent to the Immigration dept. cross your fingers, everyone!